Romantic Reflections is dedicated For thoughts and musings of Living life in a romantic fairytale
Movie(less) Nights
“Make your life an epic adventure instead of watching one”
It happens … you are at home with the one you love and are both feeling tired and stressed from a busy day at work. You look at each other and simultaneously ask “Would you like to watch a movie”?Before you know it you are sitting on the couch scrolling through your video subscription service and selecting a two hour escape from the realities of the world surrounding you.
Although you are sitting side by side, your attention is directed to the screen, with your eyes following every motion in front of you, and your ears dedicated to the dialogue and cleverly written lines being delivered by the actors on your television.
You are watching actors pretending to be someone else, and portraying scenarios that were created in the mind of an author or script writer.
Although enjoyable to watch, you are mindlessly being entertained by a story rather than looking at the person beside you whom you love so much and creating a story of your own, and leading the exciting life that you want to live.
Perhaps it is time to create your own memories, your very own FairyTale together instead of always watching a fictitious story portrayed by people pretending to be someone else, maybe it’s time to create the life you want to live, and create a more fulfilling world…together
Fill Your Life With Fulfilment
All through your life you are trying to avoid the unavoidable truth that we all have very little time on this earth. We never like to think that we won’t live forever, so it becomes easy to not cherish every single moment of every single day, and you satisfy yourself with being entertained rather than creating a life you can’t wait to get up in the morning to enjoy.
It is easy to get trapped in an unfulfilling life of waking up, going to work, coming home, watching television and going to sleep. Sure you have little enjoyments and pleasures throughout the day, but are you really and truly fulfilled? Do you love the person that you are and the life you are living, and if not are you looking to sedentary activities such as watching movies and television to fill the void of unhappiness in your life?
Perhaps it is time for an honest evaluation of yourself and your life with the harsh reality that we do not have the opportunity to live these days again, and each day not feeling completely happy with who you are and what you are doing, is one less day you have to love being alive.
Happiness is contagious, and you will find that miraculously as you find happiness in your life, your partner will want to spend more quality romantic time with you, and less time sitting next to you watching a flat screen that is flashing pictures in a darkened room.
It All Starts With You
Since we are being completely honest, and you are on the path to creating a more romantic and loving life with your partner, you need to take an unabashed look in the mirror and and begin your trail to happiness and fulfillment from the outside in.
Do you like, no love, the image in the mirror that is looking back at you? Are there changes that you would like to make? Is the image looking back at you the image you have of yourself in your perfect FairyTale life when you close your eyes, or are there a few too many extra pounds? Perhaps your style of hair just seems to not entirely suit you? Are you wearing comfy track pants rather than being dressed attractive and stylishly?
Making changes to your appearance is the very best way to improve your self esteem and make your life the happier adventure that you would like it to be. When you become more attractive to yourself and look forward to glancing at every mirror as you pass by, your confidence will magically increase, and you will find that the whole world around you seems to open up its arms and embrace the beauty that is you.
The most important thing to remember as you embark on personal changes is to always remember to make small gradual changes one at a time so you are not stressed and overwhelmed, ensuring that you can maintain the changes as you improve your lifestyle. Rather than joining a gym and working out for two hours a day to lose those extra pounds, start by watching less television and instead of sitting on the couch take a healthy half hour walk.
Gradually reduce the time spent on your bad habits that are unhealthy to your well being, and take the same amount of time to increase your healthy endeavours. By swapping unhealthy time for healthy time, you are not trying to add more to your day, but instead exchanging bad habits for good habits.
Making changes to the way you look will increase your self esteem, make you a more confident person, and make you feel happier with your life. Remember, attractiveness and activity are infectious, so when your partner sees you opt for a walk through your neighbourhood rather than plopping on the couch each night and witnesses the change it has made to your appearance and energy level, it won’t be long until they are asking to join you!
All of a sudden, you and your loved one are sharing special time together walking hand in hand, talking, laughing and sharing the experiences of your day. Think of how much healthier and happier that is for your relationship and your life rather than sitting on the couch with a bag of chips and watching a screen while not talking…you will be enjoying your. life, and will be much happier for it.
The Road to Happiness
When you begin to feel good about yourself while you rebalance your days into a more healthy and active lifestyle, you will be amazed that you have much more energy, and are filled with the desire to create more happiness in your life. When your body begins to feel the health and wellness benefits of exercising and experiencing the world outside your door, you will automatically want to spend more time “doing” rather than watching others on a screen pretending to live a life you wish was yours.
Improving your life and finding happiness does not happen overnight, and to make true and lasting change, you need to slowly adapt into your new lifestyle. The first step was feeling healthier and reducing screen time, redefining what relaxing is, and realizing that flopping down on a couch might not be fulfilling to your life.
The next step is to work on a goal. Is there an activity you have always wished to pursue but never taken the time to try? You work at your job all day, and while it gives you a level of satisfaction, does it fulfill your life and bring you complete happiness? As human beings we have multifaceted personalities but often define ourselves by what we do for income rather than explore other talents within us that could make us happier and more fulfilled.
Over time we have become much too focussed on doing one thing for income and spending our leisure time being entertained. Unfortunately, being entertained has taken the place of having hobbies and doing things we enjoy that make us more well rounded individuals and more interesting to ourselves and others. “Sitting” has replaced “doing” and has made our lives much less interesting and enjoyable.
Perhaps after you come home after a walk, it is time to embark on another activity that you enjoy…perhaps it is time for a hobby.
Happy Hobby
The term hobby often has us thinking about making folksy little knick knacks to sell at a craft fair, and while that is a very reasonable way to spend time and create fulfillment in your life, a hobby can best be defined as any activity done regularly in your leisure time.
When thinking about choosing a hobby, think about what you like in your life that you would like to spend more time doing, or something new that you have always been wanting to try. Your hobby is literally anything you would like to do that does not involve sitting in front of the television watching others, but instead finding happiness doing something that brings pleasure to your life. Have you ever taken a moment to wonder why you are sitting on the couch watching cooking and decorating shows, instead of cooking and decorating in your home? Perhaps it’s time to pull out a recipe book, and get a can of paint from the building supply store. Become a “doer” not a “watcher”.
Whether you are knitting a scarf, writing a book, painting a landscape, cooking, or tackling a home improvement project, your hobby is an activity to challenge yourself and allow you to explore a part of your inner self and personality that you do not have the opportunity to explore during your daily life. This is an exciting adventure to try new things, become a more rounded person with increased skills, and simply enjoy your leisure time doing something fun that you enjoy, rather than watching images flash by on a screen as your life passes by just as rapidly.
Your hobby is for you and can be anything you want it to be, but chances are when your partner sees you creating and having fun in your life, they will begin to pursue a hobby of their own, and who knows, perhaps you will both have similar desires and be able to have fun and romantic times creating together. There is nothing more romantic than cooking side by side, the smell of good food, the artistry of presentation, and all those opportunities to brush past each other and share a touch and a lingering kiss!
A Better You a Better Us
Improving yourself and creating the life you want to lead, a life filled with happiness and fulfilment, is an individual journey but a journey that is also to be shared with your partner. You are lovingly navigating through life together, and the path to your happier lives is a path to be experienced hand in hand.
Communication is the most important part of your relationship, and when you feel that it is time to live a happier and more complete life, you need to communicate your hopes and dreams with your partner. There could be misunderstanding if one day your loved one shuffles to the couch for your nightly routine and you say “I’m going for a walk”, if you haven’t talked to them about your desire to create a happier life for the two of you. They won’t understand the sudden change that you are making, and will begin to feel lost, hurt and confused. If communicating your desires ahead of time, your partner will understand and embrace the changes you are making and feel comfortable and included, rather than intimidated by your desire for a happier life.
The reverse is also true. When you sit with the one you love and tell them that you want to live the seemingly magical life that you watch on tv every night, and feel that you would like to make some changes to feel happier and more fulfilled, they will embrace the journey and enjoy it with you.
A successful life change involves both you and your partner having your own journey of self discovery, exploring the facets of your individual personalities that you wish to experience, and while you will both embark on your individual goals and dreams pursuing your own hobbies, there will be many experiences that you will be able to share together. Remember, that is the ultimate goal … to live your happier lives together.
The most important part of your happier life is looking into the eyes of the one you love at the end of the day, seeing a smile of happiness and contentment with their fulfilled life, and sharing a romantic and passionate kiss together each of you feeling “My life is perfect, Our life is perfect”.
Live your loving FairyTale each day instead of watching someone else’s on a screen, and you will both be happier, healthier and more loving in your life … enjoying every precious moment of every magical day.
Romantic Reflections is a collection of thoughts and musings intended to add little touches of love and romance to our relationships creating a fairytale that will last forever.